You’re here because you want to know how to say goodbye to a Gemini guy. It’s not going to be easy, but if you follow the advice in this article, the breakup will go so much smoother. The first and most important step to take is to learn the four-part process below.
How to break up with a Gemini Guy?
Break up with a Gemini guy by following four steps: prepare yourself for the breakup through self-reflection, be clear and direct about why you want to end the relationship, remain firm in your intention to breakup, and keep the breakup conversation short.
We’ll dive deeper into each of these steps in this article, including exact questions you can ask yourself to prepare for the breakup and examples of how he might react depending on your specific astrological sign.
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How To Break Up With a Gemini Guy (4 Steps)
Gemini men are always very hard to win over, especially if they’re looking for a serious relationship. That’s why it’s tough to break up with them once you know the relationship is coming to an end.
However, with these four steps, you can make the break as seamless and painless as possible.
Here’s how you can deal with your Gemini man when you want to break up:
Step One: Be Honest With Yourself
The first thing that you need to do is figure out why you want the relationship to end. Do this before bringing it up with him. If you want variety or space for personal development in this area, then just be honest about it.
He’ll respect your honesty and the breakup will be easier for him to absorb.
Therefore, take a step back and do some soul-searching. Figure out exactly how you feel, what happened in your relationship, why it’s not working, and why you think breaking up is the right move.
Here are some questions to ask yourself:
- How do I feel about the relationship?
- How long have I wanted to break up?
- What am I not getting out of the relationship?
- What went wrong?
- What are the red flags?
- What is lacking in this relationship that I want back?
- Why do I want to break up now?
- How has my relationship affected my life?
- How has my relationship affected others in my life?
- How will happen to me in the future if I stay in this relationship?
- What will happen to him (Gemini guy) in the future if he stays in this relationship?
- What will happen to me in the future if I leave this relationship?
- What will happen to him (Gemini guy) in the future if he leaves this relationship?
- What else could I do besides break up? Why are those options not right for me?
Step Two: Communicate What You Want Clearly & Directly
Once you’ve identified the reason(s) for your feeling unhappy, start by telling him why you want to break up—be careful not to get too negative or blame him for anything.
Be diplomatic about it and clearly articulate why you feel like this needs to happen.
You can approach the conversation by saying, “Hey, do you have a few moments to talk?” This works better than barging into his schedule with no care to what he’s doing or if he even has enough time for a serious conversation.
If he doesn’t have time right now, ask him when he has time later that day.
If he can talk now, continue with the conversation right then. You can start the breakup by asking him to please listen while you share some things on your mind and heart. Ask him to please wait to respond until you get it all out.
This helps avoid the breakup taking much longer than necessary and avoids the possibility that you forget to say something important.
The following are a few basic templates or scripts you can use to help get the conversation started. You don’t need to follow the scripts exactly. I’ve included them to serve as prompts for authentic and gentle communication.
If you’ve only been dating for a few months (1-5 months) you can say:
“It’s been a really great time with you and I want to thank you for all the support. It’s been a few months now and I’m not feeling like we’re a good match anymore. I wanted to give this one last try but it’s just not working out for me.”
If you’ve been dating for a longer time (6+ months) you can say:
“Over the last few months, I’ve come to understand that our relationship is not working for me. It’s only fair if we end this relationship as friends. It’s clear to me that it’s best for both of us is to distance ourselves from each other and start exploring new connections. Please don’t think poorly of me, but by continuing we’ll inevitably just end up hurting each other more than necessary. It may sound like a cliché, but please understand not all is lost with love—where there is love there can always still be friendship.”
Remember to include some of the information from the self-reflection you completed in the first step.
Beyond that, be as clear and direct as you can while keeping his feelings in mind. Even though he is unlikely to show his emotions, you can be sure that he is hurting inside.
Step Three: Stay Firm and Unemotional
The best way to end the conversation is by saying something like, “I’m sorry this happened, but I think it’s best we end things now. I know you can find someone else out there who’s right for you.”
Once he hears this, don’t feel the need to explain everything in extreme detail—if he asks why (and he will ask) simply repeat yourself until he gets the message. Stay firm and unemotional (this is the most important step).
By “unemotional” I don’t mean heartless, rude, or mean.
Instead, it means to remain centered. Try not to be overly emotional because that can distract your Gemini guy from your main message. Yes, show sensitivity and care (after all, you’ve been in what might be a serious, intimate relationship for a while).
However, sensitivity is not hysterics, drama, or emotional unloading. This is the time for calm and caring conversation.
Step Four: Keep It Short and Sweet
Once he’s gotten the message, don’t give him a second chance to plead his case or try to get you back. A Gemini man may have many tricks up his sleeve for convincing you otherwise, but changing your mind at this point is not a good idea.
Keep your breakup conversation short and sweet.
There is no rule as to how long it should take, but if you’ve been talking for more than an hour, it’s probably too long. After an hour, you might feel so exhausted that you decide to stay in the relationship. This almost never works out in the long term.
So, stick to one hour or less. Ultimately, it’s better for everyone.
How Does a Gemini Guy Handle a Break Up?
According to most astrologers, Gemini men are energetic and quick-witted. They are good socializers and can be quite flirtatious as well.
However, Gemini men also demonstrate the dual nature of the twins.
They can flip-flop without notice, change their minds on a dime, and mask their emotions by flipping an internal switch. You may think they feel nothing about losing you, but it’s likely their emotions rage just below their stoic surface.
One thing that sets them apart from other signs is their ability to talk when it’s necessary. If you lack clarity and directness in your breakup, they may try to talk you into staying with them. Their strong confidence and persuasiveness is a gift that can derail the most well-intended goodbyes.
Let’s take a quick look at how Gemini men handle breakups:
|Signs||Break Up Details|
|Gemini Man & Scorpio Woman||Scorpio is a water sign and Gemini is an air sign. Their energies don’t match well together. If they seek closure there’s a chance they may reunite in the future, but if he wants to avoid contact altogether then it would be best for him to move on by simply being friends with her and nothing more.|
|Gemini Man & Cancer Woman||He won’t like her runaway emotions. Gemini men have a great habit of hiding their feelings under a mask of indifference. Gemini’s frustration with Cancer’s emotional roller coaster will be too much for him in the end. You can expect a Gemini man to display an unemotional coldness during the breakup. Once a Gemini man is done in a relationship, there is no going back.|
|Gemini Man & Virgo Woman||Virgo women tend to struggle with trust, doubt, and overanalyzing a relationship. While the Gemini man is very intellectual and logical, he does not understand the constant unfounded jealousy. He will likely feel frustrated with the constant lack of trust, especially if accusations led to the breakup.|
|Gemini Man & Aries Woman||Procrastination may be an issue with this breakup as both signs are prone to put things off until the last moment. However, once they start the conversation about breaking up, both will recover quickly from the heartache.|
|Gemini Man & Pisces Woman||A Gemini man will likely feel blindsided by this breakup since these two signs are highly compatible. They share many interests such as travel, art, music, and nature. Therefore, a Gemini man might try harder to persuade a Pisces woman to stay with him. He will also probably take the eventual ending of the relationship much harder.|
|Gemini Man & Gemini Woman||A Gemini on Gemini breakup is likely to include lots of conversation. You can understand each other but you might be so similar that you clash. A Gemini guy will probably play into the endless round after round of talking. The length of the breakup might be an issue.|
|Gemini Man & Saggitarius Woman||A Gemini man will love and hate a breakup with a Sagittarius woman. Her wild and feisty personality can bring drama to the breakup. What he can appreciate is how direct she communicates during the breakup. However, he might struggle to reign in his feelings in this kind of environment. Both sides of his personality (his dual nature) might get triggered!|
|Gemini Man & Capricorn Woman||On one hand, a Gemini man might be shell-shocked that their loyal Capricorn girlfriend wants to end the relationship. On the other hand, they might get frustrated if her sometimes shy nature leads to vague language that isn’t direct and clear.|
|Gemini Man & Leo Woman||A Gemini man often loves a Leo woman’s strong personality. However, he doesn’t like it when she spills over into hot-tempered territory. If the breakup is clear and direct (both strengths of a Leo), then the breakup will go fine. But if she gets too firey and dramatic, a Gemini will push back. The relationship ending conversation should be shorter with these two signs.|
|Gemini Man & Libra Woman||A Gemini man might struggle with a breakup initiated by a Libra woman. Her natural inclination to make peace and compromise might prolong the situation. Dragging out the heartbreak will only hurt both people. If she can mobilize her amazing charm to deliver a clear but gentle breakup, then they might just find solace in a lasting friendship.|
|Gemini Man & Aquarius Woman||A Gemini man will appreciate the rational approach an Aquarius woman is likely to take to the breakup. The downside is that an Aquarius woman might be less sensitive than other signs. The Gemini guy might not reveal his emotions, be he does experience them. Lack of sensitivity will only drive the pain of the breakup deeper.|
|Gemini Man & Taurus Woman||Taurus women are known for their hedonistic and non-compromising ways. Therefore, a Gemini man might view the breakup as one-sided or selfish. The breakup can feel worse if the Taurus has expressed deep dependence on the Gemini man during the relationship. Sometimes, a breakup with these signs opens old relationship wounds.|
All in all, you are not going to find a Gemini man being too dramatic about breakups.
Here’s a video that (while intended for humor and entertainment) show’s a somewhat realistic portryal of the dual nature of Geminis after a breakup:
What Does a Gemini Man Mean When He Wants To Be Friends After a Break Up?
Sometimes it can feel confusing when a Gemini man (or any man) wants to be friends after a breakup. What does it mean? Does he still have feelings? Is it a mistake?
Gemini men like a challenge and they prefer to learn from their mistakes, not repeat them over and over again. After the breakup, you may find he is just trying to get all of the bases covered by wanting to be friends. This is very reasonable for a sign that often tries to talk you into or out of things that impact their lives.
At the same time, it’s worth noting though that Gemini people love change so he may not find this abandonment as traumatic as another Zodiac sign would. And his invitation for friendship doesn’t automatically mean that he completely forgets about his romantic feelings for you.
His dual nature makes it possible for him to recategorize your relationship into a friendship.
If he wants to be friends with you after the breakup, he will make this point clear in a manner that doesn’t hurt your feelings or pride (this is another Gemini trait). For example, he could say: “I don’t want you to think that I am mad at you for breaking up with me”.
Or he could try: “I am so glad we are able to remain friends after breaking up”.
In summary, if a Gemini man says he wants to remain friends after a breakup, take his words at face value. He just wants to keep you as a friend.
How To Get a Gemini Man Back After a Breakup
Even if you initiated the breakup with a Gemini man, you may decide that you want him back. The trouble is, how do you get a Gemini man to want you back?
The most important step you can take is to apologize, tell him how you feel, and display the traits that make you almost irresistible to a Gemini man. I wrote an entire article of all 20 traits Gemini men want in a woman, so here I’ll share a shortlist of the most important.
What Gemini men want in women:
- Clear and direct communication
- No drama
If you do these things, you’ll have the best chance of winning his heart and making your Gemini guy come back to you.
Final Thoughts: How To Break Up With a Gemini Guy
Geminis are said to have a mental restlessness that requires constant stimulation, so when one tries too hard or focuses too intensely on a breakup, those insecurities will surface.
While some couples can remain freinds, it may be best for others if they accept what happened, move on with their lives at their own pace, and never speak again.
What to read next:
- Learn how to get your Gemini man back after a breakup.
- Find out the 20 traits Gemini men love in women.
- Read my article about second chances in relationships.